Q: I’m scared of my pony. I love him, but I don’t want to ride anymore because I keep falling off. What can I do?

A: First of all, it’s important to know that you’re not alone; lots of riders, including the top professionals, feel scared at some point, especially after a fall. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your pony or that you aren’t a good rider.

Here are some things that might help:

• Spend time on the ground. Grooming, walking in-hand, or just hanging out with your pony can rebuild your confidence and remind you why you love to be around him. It’s also worth noting that you don’t HAVE to ride just because you have a pony. Your pony doesn’t care what you do together, as long as you both have fun.
• Take small steps. You don’t ever have to get back on your pony, but if you do, start with baby steps. You certainly don’t have to be cantering or jumping anytime soon. For example, you could start by leading your pony, then sitting on your pony while someone leads, then walking quietly. Little wins add up!
• Get support. Ask your instructor or a trusted adult to help you. Sometimes just having someone you trust by your side makes a huge difference.
• Talk it through. Talking to friends about feeling nervous can really help. Sometimes just saying your fears out loud and hearing your friends say they have the same anxieties is enough to make you feel a LOT better!

Remember, it’s okay to take a break. Riding is supposed to be fun. If you need time off to feel ready again, that’s fine. Even the bravest riders in the world have had wobbly moments.

The most important thing? Don’t be hard on yourself. Confidence can take time to rebuild, but with patience and support, you’ll get to where you want to go!

Confidence tip!

Sometimes the bravest choice isn’t pushing through. Rather, it’s knowing when to ask for help or when to hop off. That doesn’t make you less of a rider; it makes you wise and kind to yourself (and your pony!)